Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. May you have a blessed day and find kindness, laughter and love.
There is so much to be grateful for, despite my family’s loss. God gave me a gift of a child for 24 years. My child may now be an Angel, but any gift from God is to be treasured and thankful for. I got the keep my gift for 24 years and it was worth every second. He was a wonderful soul who loved his family with a fierce passion. I was and am truly blessed.
I took a few weeks off from writing to regroup, however I don’t think it’s working very well. I keep reminding myself I need to write, both to get my thoughts out of my head and to hopefully help other Moms in my same situation. It’s not easy tho’.
I simply retreated into myself for a while. I am allowed to. It’s very necessary as we approach year end.
Lately I can’t get my hands on enough graphics featuring Anthony’s photo. There is a Facebook group called Creative Designs by Grieving Mothers. They put up a few free graphic offers per day and I select one or two a week that I like.
Anthony’s 25th birthday is 8 days before Christmas. Not that we would be celebrating this year.
Driving around my neighborhood, it’s a festival of holiday lights every year at Christmas. Everyone puts a great deal of effort into their homes. The beautiful decorations was one of the reasons I wanted to live here. Christmas was my favorite holiday. I wanted to live in a town where the holiday meant as much to others as it did to me.
This year will not be a traditional Christmas. We are still in mourning and have chosen to wait until 1 year passes before we consider any celebratory events. We are eliminating some items which remove the solemnity of mourning.
The things we are eliminating this Christmas:
- Holiday cards (send or display)
- Ornament exchange
What we are keeping:
- Dinner with family Christmas Eve
- Presents for the kids
I always host dinner by me on Christmas Eve. I think it’s extremely important to have my family together. My sons, nieces and nephews deserve a present. Nothing elaborate this year. Just a little something.
Anthony’s favorite part of Christmas was the presents. At 24, he was still like a 5 year old with wrapping paper and presents. The excitement was infectious.
He would want his brothers to get a present. He wouldn’t want us to take it all away.
In lieu of cards, I have asked my friends, and I am asking you, my readers to contribute a holiday card to Cards For Hospitalized Kids. This organization delivers holiday cards to children spending theirs in the hospital. Today, Thanksgiving Day, my family and I will be making ours and putting them into the mail. If nothing else, I would like to pay it forward in Anthony’s memory.
I am going to visit Anthony at the cemetery and then hug my family tight to me for the remainder of the day.
If I can leave you with one idea today, pay a kindness forward. Kindness is contagious. You will feel good, the recipient will feel good and that is what Thanksgiving is all about.