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Thanksgiving – Approaching 50 and Fabulous
Bereavement Family Happiness Little Moments Midlife Positivity


November 24, 2016

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family.   May you have a blessed day and find kindness, laughter and love. 

There is so much to be grateful for, despite my family’s loss.  God gave me a gift of a child for 24 years.  My child may now be an Angel, but any gift from God is to be treasured and thankful for.  I got the keep my gift for 24 years and it was worth every second. He was a wonderful soul who loved his family with a fierce passion.  I was and am truly blessed. 

I took a few weeks off from writing to regroup, however I don’t think it’s working very well.  I keep reminding myself I need to write, both to get my thoughts out of my head and to hopefully help other Moms in my same situation.  It’s not easy tho’. 

I simply retreated into myself for a while. I am allowed to.  It’s very necessary as we approach year end.  

Lately I can’t get my hands on enough graphics featuring Anthony’s photo.  There is a Facebook group called Creative Designs by Grieving Mothers.  They put up a few free graphic offers per day and I select one or two a week that I like.  

Anthony’s 25th birthday is 8 days before Christmas.  Not that we would be celebrating this year.  

Driving around my neighborhood, it’s a festival of holiday lights every year at Christmas. Everyone puts a great deal of effort into their homes.  The beautiful decorations was one of the reasons I wanted to live here. Christmas was my favorite holiday.  I wanted to live in a town where the holiday meant as much to others as it did to me. 

This year will not be a traditional Christmas. We are still in mourning and have chosen to wait until 1 year passes before we consider any celebratory events.  We are eliminating some items which remove the solemnity of mourning. 

The things we are eliminating this Christmas:

  • Tree
  • Decorations
  • Holiday cards (send or display)
  • Ornament exchange

What we are keeping: 

  • Dinner with family Christmas Eve
  • Presents for the kids  

I always host dinner by me on Christmas Eve. I think it’s extremely important to have my family together.  My sons,  nieces and nephews deserve a present.  Nothing elaborate this year. Just a little something.  

Anthony’s favorite part of Christmas was the presents.  At 24, he was still like a 5 year old with wrapping paper and presents. The excitement was infectious.  

He would want his brothers to get a present.  He wouldn’t want us to take it all away.  

In lieu of cards, I have asked my friends, and I am asking you, my readers to contribute a holiday card to Cards For Hospitalized Kids.  This organization delivers holiday cards to children spending theirs in the hospital.  Today, Thanksgiving Day, my family and I will be making ours and putting them into the mail.  If nothing else, I would like to pay it forward in Anthony’s memory. 

I am going to visit Anthony at the cemetery and then hug my family tight to me for the remainder of the day. 

If I can leave you with one idea today, pay a kindness forward. Kindness is contagious. You will feel good, the recipient will feel good and that is what Thanksgiving is all about. 


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