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25 things I’ve learned in 25 years – Approaching 50 and Fabulous
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25 things I’ve learned in 25 years

August 22, 2015

This week I had the luck to meet an exceptionally talented 25 year old writer, Amber Tsoi.  Thank you to my friend Danny at Dream Big, Dream Often for his Meet and Greet, which resulted in Amber and I connecting.  

Amber’s list of 25 things she has learned in her 25 years is an article you should share with your daughters, granddaughters, nieces and friends.

At 25, I was not as focused as Amber on the realization of my goals.  In contrast, I was a new Mom, and that changed my focus in life completely.  However, I wish I had written a letter to my future self (#13) or took the time to appreciate the little things (#17). Time has flown by in the blink of an eye, while reading Amber’s list I wondered how many things I am still realizing about myself today as I turn 49.  

True social media didn’t exist (#11) 24 years ago!! However, I was still too busy comparing my life to others in my 20’s.  I had to have exactly what everyone else had. Why, who knows? 

Amber’s list of the things she has learned in 25 years was so powerful, I asked her to write a letter to her 49 year old self.  What would she want to say to the woman she will be in 24 years?  She was kind enough to oblige:

Dear Future 49 year old me,

Congratulations on being the awesome age of 49! When you were younger, you liked to say that the best age, is your current age.

I hope that as you celebrate each birthday, you remember to count your blessings each year and reflect on the things in your life you are grateful for.

And to never believe that anything is too late. That you continue to follow your passions and do the things you love. As well as finding new passions and interests along the way. Keep making lists of goals and projects to get excited about!

I hope that you wrote your novels and continue to write for a living, in some capacity. I hope that you travelled and embarked on more adventures both close and far from home, and continue to explore the world, day by day.

I hope that you have learnt to truly be kind to yourself and grown to really appreciate and accept the woman you are now. I hope you have left behind the insecurities and doubts of your younger years.

If you are lucky enough to have a family of your own, I hope that you are as close with them as you are with your own mother.

Above all, I want you to be proud of yourself. Proud and happy with the life you have led up until now. Wishing you another fifty fabulous years!

p.s do you feel like you’re a grown up yet?! Maybe because your 50 something mum still says she doesn’t feel like one, it seems like an impossibility to you also!

I asked Amber what item on her list would she like to ensure she kept with her during the next 24 years: 

I would say #7 stay curious and keep learning, I would most want to have kept this one up!

As you read Amber’s list, what items resonate with you, now that you’re in your 30’s, 40’s and 50’s?  If you were going to write a letter to your future self, what would you say?   

Thank you Amber, I hope we can collaborate again in the future!! 

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