Hello Friends! Time for another edition of Stay True to Yourself Friday. If you’re a first-time reader, Friday is the best day for reflection. Decisions made on a Friday give you Saturday and Sunday to map out your strategy to make it happen.
Friday is the where you should look back on yourself and try to make one change that will improve your overall positivity, power, and impact on the world around you.
Lets face fact, resolve takes work. As the definition states, you must decide firmly on a course of action, come up with a strategic plan, and do what it takes to pursue that plan. Developing a firm determination takes commitment, and that will probably be next week’s word, as commitment is just as hard to achieve as a firm resolve.
Can you say “New Year Resolutions?”
You may ask yourself why would resolve be any harder than any other day-to-day choices? Because resolve takes a firm stance. The word firm means that you CANNOT waiver. No flexibility in your decision. You must pursue resolve with an unrelenting vision.
This is why creating a strategic plan of action is so important. How many of us go into something new, like a diet for example, with no thought out plan about how we’re going to get to the end goal? You need to ask yourself, how many pounds do I want to lose, over what course of time? How many calories a day can I eat? How much time can I commit to exercise? If you have not asked yourself these important questions, and mapped out a plan, you are almost 95% guaranteed to fail.
Imagine someone told you to run a half marathon, but you had to figure out where the finish line was? How is reaching it possible?
Happy, whole people are resolved people. They carry a vision. They walk through their day knowing that while it may not be perfect, it may be fraught with discontent, trial and tribulation, they can plow through. They stay focused on their plan, end goal and work towards it.
I am no idealist, I have had my share of days where I questioned my resolve and thought about giving up. I had personal trials and did things like get too wrapped up in the “shoulda coulda woulda moments”, stopped working out, ate wrong foods, didn’t pay attention to my family’s needs, etc. Sometimes a deviation lasted a day, week, month or even a year, life throws all of us a curve-ball now and then. During these curvy times, I found that the following quote from Daisaku Ikeda helps me get right back on track:
It is up to me to regain my self-control and refocus my vision on the plan to my goals I had set out for myself. I made a map to the finish line, I needed to refocus on reaching it.
Is it easy? Nope
Is it worth all the effort? YES!
Resolve takes failure. Multiple failures. Believe me, I have failed PLENTY of times. I trip, stumble, fall down, crash into things, basically I have been a plan-less bull in a china shop more times than I care to personally count. However I have learned via my failings and experiences to get up, put a bandage on the wound and move forward.
As I approach my 50 and Fabulous turning point, I have realized that life is too short to miss out on the opportunity to secure my goals and know that I have made a difference in the world. Now is the time to plan, move and succeed, even if the only person who feels the effects of my resolve is me.
Are you resolved? What are your strategies? Share them in the comments! Stay True to You ~ Miranda