Being a parent is the hardest job and also the most rewarding. I was so lucky to be blessed with 3 sons. They’re each unique individuals with very distinctive personalities. They’re not “perfect”, they give me enough grey hair, however I love them unconditionally.
My sons are close to their father. He has been a stay-at-home Dad for 15 years. So naturally when they have an issue, problem or just want to talk, their first words are “where’s Dad?”
All the TV shows and movies show kids running to Mom when an issue arises. Not mine. They all want their Dad.
Being the only woman means they don’t steal my clothes, but it’s kind of lonely sometimes.
I would try to talk with my sons about any subject and they would look at me like I had 3 heads. That glazed over eye, panic in their throat, the quick “I forgot something in my room, talk to you later Mom.” Heaven forbid I tried a “sensitive topic.”
Since when did I become a Hydra?
My boys didn’t realize the power I held. I am a woman. I can help them navigate the sea of complexity in the female mind. Wooooo, we are challenging. I want to know about school, friends and their lives, the same way their Dad does.
Well, almost the same. Some things I am better off just not knowing.
About 4 years ago was taking my two oldest to the mall one Saturday and asked “want to get a Starbucks?” Who knew the power of a Frappucino??
We sat inside the local Starbucks and I had a Skinny Mocha while they sipped on Double Chocolate Chip Frappucinos and it was a new dawn! They talked to me.
We shared, laughed, questioned, and smiled. It was 30 minutes of open dialogue. We even joked. My middle son said to me “this was cool Mom we should do this again sometime.”
My relationship with my sons was transformed.
I was soon including all 3 on Starbucks outings. We don’t always go together, sometimes it’s 1, 2 or 3 boys. Sometimes we sit inside, sometimes we take our coffees to go and chat in my car on way to store or family visits. One thing remains consistent, we talk.
I have found the power I was seeking in a venti Frappucino!
I am NEVER letting it go.