I have to say that in my 48 years, the phrase “I have no time” has evolved into my least favorite of them all. Even the phrase “I hate you” doesn’t compare to “I have no time” in my disdain. “I hate you” means you’re taking direct action and actually “DOING” something, for yourself. You “hate” it. Actionable, tangible, result-oriented. “I have no time” is intangible excuse for not taking direct action in making progress. This phrase is all to often used by women to rationalize why they’re not taking more action to improve themselves and the quality of their happiness.
Personally, I don’t hear many men saying “I don’t have time” to make excuses for inaction. They will just not make an excuse and move on. Inaction, no problem.
As women I often hear and overhear is making excuses for not taking better care of our own needs and chalking it all up to “I don’t have time.” Why not?
My family’s needs come first and the kids are always so busy.
- Says who???
I have to sacrifice my own needs in order to take care of my career, family, significant other, etc.
- Says who???
I can’t find time to eat right and exercise, it takes so much time.
- Says who? And just stuffed a preservative filled cupcake in your mouth versus an apple. Argh.
Unfortunately, it’s you. Yes, you. Go look in a mirror. See the face staring back at you? That’s the person who steers the proverbial horses and has put the cart before them. If you have let this get too far and do not recognize the person staring back at you in the mirror, ouch. Time to STOP.
Have you gained weight and just can’t get it off? Have you not gotten a good haircut in 4 months? When was the last time you walked in the park and stared at the beauty around you? Or maybe picked up that novel you’ve been meaning to read? Umm, hate to bring up, but how about the yearly boob-squeeze? Your Mammogram, not sex. Albeit if you haven’t made time for sex either, my readers you are missing out!!!
I am happy to inform you that you both have the time and deserve to. Everyone of us needs to carve out 10-30 minutes a day, just for ourselves. Get what is yours!!
Now some of you may be saying “I can’t do that every day”, ok fine, 3-4x per week minimum. Take baby steps and ease into it. But it’s not an option. This is mandatory “because I am worth it” time.
As I mentioned in my kick-off, my mother (who was divorced raising 2 daughters) said “Learn to take care of you, because if you don’t, NO ONE ELSE WILL.” True that.
I am a married mother of 3 sons. 24, 20 and 16 (today!). My boys and my husband know that Tuesday, Thursday evenings and Saturday and Sunday mornings are my workout times. It has been embedded for 12 years. I started when I was 36, did three 15-20 minute workouts in front of the tv while my kids played in front of me on the floor. Or I skipped out and ran around the block 2-3 times while Hubby watched them. Point is, I made the time and stuck with it, despite my husbands initial objections. No looking back, no putting other things in front of my needs.
My sons know my own time is just as important as theirs and making time for me is crucial to my sanity. This is why I have a new hobby, this blog. I wanted to express my creativity in new ways. I have and will continue my workouts, but now that I have more time on my hands, I wanted to pursue a new outlet.
I hope my post inspires you to take action. Make time. Stop self-sacrificing and enjoy yourself! Put yourself on the Pedestal.
To be 50 and Fabulous in 1 year and 2 months, I relish my time and will always say “I have it”. I am important. So are you.
…all views expressed are my own. And any relation to anyone living or dead is purely a concidence of me taking the time for ME to write this blog.